The 9+1 Tips I Give My Goddaughter About Relationships This is another article of mine.
I have a beautiful goddaughter who has been living in America for years & has already entered the arena of relationships.
You know, my dear, 18, in my opinion, is a sensitive age where you haven't yet spread your wings, where you don't know many things about relationships and you can easily get hurt, because even at 18 you are young and innocent and you still don't understand the dangers that may lurk.
So, I have given my goddaughter 9+1 Tips on relationships and how to avoid falling into the trap of getting irreparably hurt:
- Don't judge a person just by the package, but look at the contents too! A basic principle is not to judge someone just by their appearance, because when we grow up we won't be the same as we were at 18, but the soul always remains the same.
- Don't believe in words, only in actions! When someone speaks big words and promises a lot but does nothing, it's time to run away from them.
- Be careful who you hang out with! Okay, I didn't say don't talk to the barman or the doctor, but you should keep your antennae and eyes open, don't trust easily, you know he's telling you to filter it well in your mind and make the right choices.
- Listen more to your mind and less to your heart! I know that logic and emotion often conflict and we always operate based on the “I want” of our heart and not the “I should” of our mind, but keep in mind that logic together with instinct are infallible and will help you not to get irreparably hurt.
- Don't make hasty moves! He told you he loves you and you're happy? I totally feel you, don't get into a relationship with him right away, see him a little friendly and slowly you'll see where it goes. Don't rush into a relationship, you have all the time in front of you, depending on the signs he'll give you.
- Don't let anyone put you down! You will never, ever let anyone put you down, whether you are alone or with friends!
- Always be yourself and whoever likes you! You will never change for anyone, you will be yourself and nothing will matter.
- Your whole life is ahead of you! And what if something doesn't happen with the person you want or what happened when you broke up? You have your whole life ahead of you for love and from men, yaaaa!!! Just enjoy your student years, go out for your walks and everything else will come!
- Smile because you deserve it! Your smile and your mental health are what you deserve the most - along with your physical health of course - that's why my dear, you will never let anyone make you sad, make you cry and fall into depression! And believe me, if you get hurt once irreparably, it takes a lot of strength to get back on your feet!!
- Don't waste yourself in the wrong relationships! At 18+ you are young, beautiful, you have a brain for it and you don't need to waste yourself on the wrong men, you put them through the "Holy Inquisition Metternich" and choose what you will do next. Be careful, you have to make the right choice, otherwise you will lose years of your life with the wrong person. As Despina Vandi used to say, "I found the wrong person to love again".
*The photo is from Pablo by Buffer*
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