If you're going to be jealous, do it right.
Jealousy in a relationship is that little green monster that wakes up every now and then and makes us lose our minds. Sometimes it's good to be jealous, but other times jealousy often leads a relationship to breakup.
Usually the feeling of insecurity is what leads us to such a horrible feeling that it makes us imagine absurd things.
And because jealousy exists in our relationships and as much as you want to deny it, deep down you know that you have to face it with strength and courage, and for this reason today I'm giving you 7 ways to face - and embrace - this inevitable feeling.
1. Know that jealousy (in small doses) is actually a good sign.
Jealousy doesn't happen without a reason. Your partner always has to give you a hard push to make you jealous. It's good when you start a relationship not to fall head over heels for the other person, nor to invest in this relationship. As it progresses and you slowly connect, then it's most likely that you will start to feel a jealousy hovering within the relationship.
If you are committed to your current partner, you will have outbursts of jealousy, no matter how irrational or rational you want to be. But that is good, because it means you care about the relationship you have. Recognizing and accepting that this is normal and healthy because slowly you will begin to understand that too much jealousy is also harmful.
2. Support the other person's feelings.
If you can accept that jealousy is natural, then you can banish this green monster. Know that sometimes you and your relationship need some freedom, going out with your friends or having some time for yourself. You don't need to suffocate each other, nor bombard each other with messages like "Where are you?", "What are you doing?", "Who are you with?"
Also, if you are jealous, you can talk to your partner so that he or she can hear how you feel from your side and calmly explain why you are jealous. Know that all problems are solved through dialogue.
3. Give it time
If you are very jealous of your partner, then I recommend that you write down your feelings on a piece of paper or take some time for yourself to relax by doing things you enjoy. Take a friend out or relax at home with a glass of wine - don't get drunk - and some good music or a movie.
4. Lower your expectations.
You don't need to know where your partner is and what he's doing at all times, just show a little trust - unless he's given you some pretty strong signs to make you jealous, and of course, it's too bad for me that you're still sitting with him and tolerating him.
5. Reevaluate toxic habits.
Okay, if you've reached the point of searching his cell phone or his social media, you yourself understand that something is wrong and you've taken it a little too far. Let alone that you'll worry more if you don't find anything and you'll want to search even more. If you believe that your relationship is lying to you, you'll never know the truth and even following him is not a solution. You just leave this relationship so that you don't get hurt later.
6. Trust your instincts!
Of course, sometimes you will be jealous or anxious in your relationship and this will happen because you are madly in love with your relationship and you want it to succeed. But know that jealousy is like an alarm system that rings your alarm bell. You must calmly know how you will make the right decisions: With your mind - logic - or with your heart - emotion -? However, as you yourself know, we women also have a 6th sense, a subconscious and an instinct that rarely fall out. That's why you should listen to them!
If you belong to that category where your instinct tells you that your partner has been having an affair with his ex and you feel uncomfortable, you have every right to express your concern to him and talk to him honestly - not that he will admit it -. Don't forget to be logical and not irrational.
7. Deal with jealousy
It's natural to be afraid that you'll break up, but if you're constantly jealous, believe me, you'll break up.
To deal with it, you need to have a dialogue with your partner and try to calm down, because nerves don't get you anywhere.
*A source of inspiration for this particular article, in addition to my own experience, is also the translation from foreign sites*