"He broke up with me with a text message, telling me it wasn't my fault, but his, that he was psychologically ill and that I deserved the best, but I'm sure he was cheating on me," my best friend confided in me. She came to find me at the office one winter morning a year ago, her eyes red and swollen from crying so much, to tell me that her ex had sent a Viber message at 3 in the morning asking for a breakup.
It seemed so strange to me – not that it hasn't happened to me – but after a long-term relationship, at least you have the guts and the courtesy to respect the person you had by your side for years, who supported you and was supposed to love you, but you probably didn't truly love him/her. For so many years of relationship, you just stayed in a relationship because it suited you and you let the other person get emotionally attached to you, and that's the worst thing, especially for us women who are a little more sensitive than men.
Technology in today's era is galloping, new mobile devices are released every day and we are all running like sheep to get them.
Social media is growing day by day and we all download them from apps - let's not lose sight of that - and we have lost personal contact with people, we have forgotten what it's like to look someone in the eye and speak to them politely and openly.
So we have reached the age where we all break up via a message, whether via Viber or Facebook, regardless of the social media, the breakup is now done this way, and then the well-known delete, block follows.
There is nothing worse than breaking up like this. We forgot to face people and tell them the truth, no matter how bitter it is, no matter how much it hurts.
We all blame it on our psychological state, while the likes and comments on other people's profiles give and take, and then we try to collect the leftovers.
And then you break up with a simple message "I want to stay friends" and other such excuses that in my opinion are nonsense - not to mention something else that doesn't work - and excuses to end it. And then he asks you to tell him in person and then you accept it, what face do you look him in the eye with?
Let's stop keeping up with technology for a while and respect the feelings of our fellow human beings and for God's sake, get serious and start breaking up if you have the guts, otherwise don't have relationships at all.
Why did you learn them? "Love is now shown with red alerts and breakups with delete and block and then countless check-ins for our ex's friends to see."
"He divorced me and didn't respect the years I stood by him, the hours I wasted so he could be well, and he divorced me with a simple text message," my friend told me again, crying and inconsolable, having a thousand rights, because man, you don't divorce a woman from a text message, you just look her in the eyes and tell her.