The old one may be different and fatal, but the present one is the one that “resurrects” the other emotionally and mentally, that makes them feel a lot again and forget the old. Here are some opinions to help you decide which side you will take:
- Ex Vs Present: The eternal debate about who will prevail, since we often observe the phenomenon of leaving our present and going back to our ex (essentially a sick situation) since it is something certain and given, but entering a situation from the past is very likely to cause you suffering.
- You never go back to where you spit: No, this is something you should never do, didn't your mom teach you that when glass breaks, it never sticks together again and that you don't eat reheated food? It's better to be alone and overcome situations, it's better to be with your current one who will fill you emotionally, than to run after your ex: Don't do this!!!
- Ex Vs Now: You marked double. You may not have any problems in bed, but who satisfies you mentally? Someone who hurt you in the past or someone who tries to make you feel comfortable around them? Don't think only with your heart, listen to logic (of course, if you have broken up with your ex, it changes the subject, but again, at some point the love leaves and the love for him as a person remains)
- He loves me - he doesn't love me: Both the ex and the current one love you, each in a different way, it's just that with the ex, love is not always necessarily romantic but human. The current one, however, will love you in all the ways you can imagine. You don't want that anyway, and you're still thinking about who you'll choose?
- Ex Vs Now: Discussing with your friends who to choose might be good for you in the sense that as third parties they will have seen a lot of things between the two of you and will help you see things from a different perspective. But know that you are the one who will make the final decision and remember that you don't choose only with your heart!!!
The ex vs. present issue is something that plagues all of us women and it's something we see in movies too. There's always a present who loves us with all their being and there's always that ex who torments us with thoughts (and we emphasize again depending on how each one has broken up) negative or positive.
Just don't forget that even fairy tales and love stories have a time and an end, and you can't be stuck with your ex for life. Life goes on, it flows, and you gain new experiences that will make you forget the old ones.
Tips: If you want to see who you want, just take a piece of paper and write down the positives and negatives of your ex and your current one and see who has the most positives and the fewest negatives and go from there (and don't steal and put all the positives on your ex, give your current one a chance too)
Former Vs Present: The battle has just begun, who will you choose?